Millions of Filipinos and thousands of Caucasians are married to Filipinas and appear to be happy. Generally speaking, Filipinas are caring and loving. They are usually hygienic. They use “tabo” (small water pitcher to wash intimate parts). Bidet is very common now in the Philippines, unlike in the U.S. A number of Filipinas are beautiful or sexually attractive. Most are virgins, especially if they live in the provinces. What more do men want?
An Ilocano remarked to his wife while they were in bed: “I have never heard you say ‘I love you.’” The wife replied: “I have given my body to you. You still ask?” The Ilocano riposted: “A call girl gives her body to the caller but that does not necessarily mean that she loves him.” The wife pushed him away, saying: “So you think I am a call girl.”
Filipinas are shy in saying “I love you.” Do not expect a Filipina to be cooing “I love you” every day. However, you must continue to whisper “I love you.” There might come a time when she will say “I love you, too.” – if she really loves you.
CAUCASIANS LOVE FILIPINAS
I met a Swiss guy in Baguio. He told me that he was married to an Ilocana from La Union. He said that he was very happy with her. They had children. She took very good care of the children and him. I asked why he did not bring them to Switzerland. He said that he could not afford it.
There was another Swiss guy I met in Baguio who was married to an Ilocana, too. They met in Switzerland when the wife was working as a nurse there. They appeared to be happily married. They were selling their home in a plush neighborhood and moving to Manila or somewhere near there because they wanted to see the sun more often. Try southern La Union, I suggested. I told them that the best place to see the sun without feeling the heat is in Waikiki Beach, Honolulu. There are gentle breezes called “trade winds”.
MONEY
It has been said that if you marry a Filipina you marry her family. That’s understandable. But what does it really mean? You become, in many cases, the family’s money source. Or as they say in Ilocoslovakia, “pagbagasan da ka” (you are the rice granary). You better have enough money or get a second job. Money can be earned. Is your Filipina wife worth all the disbursements you are going to make for her and her family’s benefit. Does she really appreciate it. Does she really care about you?
I met three medical students in Baguio and asked how much it costs to go to medical school. One said about Php 400,000 a year (about $8,000). “Your parents must be well to do,” I commented. “My sister’s husband is paying for it, they live in the States,” she replied. That’s an excellent investment. Doctors are among the top earners in the Philippines.
What if your wife’s father is undergoing dialysis? They are just prolonging his life. Your Filipina wife asks you to help pay for the expenses. What are you going to say?
An American citizen married a very attractive Cagayan Valley girl. He was giving $600 a month to her parents who did not work even though they were able bodied and were only in their 50’s. That is $300 each which is more than the minimum wage in the Philippines. When the wife committed adultery the husband stopped the payments. The wife complained. Come back to me and stop fooling around and I will resume payment, the husband told her. She preferred fooling around.
ADULTERY
It appears that adultery has become one of the major problems involving married Filipinas in the last three decades. Adultery while living in the Philippines during the husband’s residence abroad or adultery after coming to the United States.
There was a 20-something who went to the U.S. Embassy in Manila carrying a baby. “Is that your child with your husband?,” asked the interviewer. “Yes,” she replied. “How old is the baby?” asked the interviewer. “One month old,” she replied. “When was the last time you saw your husband?,” the interviewer continued. “About two years ago,” she answered. “That cannot be your husband’s child. It takes only 9 months from conception to birth,” the interviewer said. The girl obviously did not expect such questions. A possible answer – if true – would have been: My husband FedExed his sperm and I went to a clinic to have artificial insemination performed.
The husband requested the Embassy to forgive his wife because he loved her and had already forgiven her. The Embassy refused saying that she had committed adultery and had lied to an immigration officer. It is possible to obtain immigration relief, but the husband’s family told him that she was not worth it.
The most surprising case involved two high school sweethearts in the Philippines who belonged to a conservative church and were married in the church. The husband became a green card holder and petitioned for his wife. During the pandemic he did not visit her. Apparently she found another man during the interlude and they had adulterous relations.
The wife came to the U.S. One evening while the husband was walking on the hallway of their apartment he overheard his wife talking on the phone with a man. He grabbed the phone and threw it to the floor and confronted the wife. She admitted that she had a boyfriend. Because he still loved his wife, they went out to buy another phone but he did not give her a telephone connection. Apparently the husband did not realize that one can still communicate with another using Messenger, Viber, Telegram, etc. Weeks later the husband arrived home. He did not find his wife but found his wife’s wedding ring on their bed.
There was a Filipino green card holder who had petitioned for his wife. The wife had been waiting for almost 5 years and there was still no visa. A lover boy must have told the waiting wife not to believe her husband. They started going out together. The husband heard rumors about his wife going out with another man. He went to the Philippines to confront her. She admitted the affair. The husband asked an Ilocano lawyer on whether to continue with the petition. The lawyer told him that there is a saying “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” Fuera de los buenos. The husband continued with the petition. The wife came to the U.S. What did she do? She had another adulterous relationship.
One of the most blatant cases involved a man whose wife worked in a hotel. One day a friend told him that his wife had been going out with another man. His friend added that the man’s children with his wife did not look like him. He took the children to a clinic and had their DNA taken. They were not his children. He divorced his wife and asked for custody of the children saying that he had grown to love them and could better care for them.
CONSTANT COURTSHIP
A husband should continue to court his wife even after the marriage ceremony. He should continue to whisper “sweet nothings”. Women like to be courted. They like to hear nice things. Consider going to the internet and look for love poems. Read a poem to your wife every so often. A husband should be well groomed at home. He should take daily showers and brush his teeth after each meal and snack. He should use deodorants and cologne.
TIGHT GUARDING
In basketball, tight guarding is the best way to prevent the other guys from shooting for the basket. The same is true in marriage – tight guarding.
An Ilocano lawyer met a fellow Nortenian who introduced the attractive woman beside him as his wife. The lawyer asked her “What do you do?” The man responded. “I do not let her work. Other guys will court her. I will lose my investment. I can afford to support her.”
So, do not let your wife work at all. If she has to work do not let her work in settings where her co-workers or supervisors could court her.
BMW: Bring mama to work. Bring mama from work.
Atty. Emmanuel Samonte Tipon was a Fulbright and Smith-Mundt scholar to Yale Law School where he was awarded a Master of Laws degree specializing in Constitutional Law. He graduated with a Bachelor of Laws degree from the University of the Philippines. He placed third in the 1955 bar examinations. He is admitted to practice before the U.S. Supreme Court, New York, and the Philippines. He practices federal law, with emphasis on constitutional issues, immigration law, and appellate federal criminal defense. He was the Dean and a Professor of Law of the College of Law, Northwestern University, Philippines. He has written law books and legal articles for the world’s most prestigious legal publishers including Thomson West and Lawyers Co-operative Publishing Co. and writes columns for newspapers. He wrote the case notes and annotations for the entire Immigration and Nationality Act published by The Lawyers Co-operative Publishing Co. and Bancroft-Whitney Co. (now Thomson Reuters). He wrote the best-seller "Winning by Knowing Your Election Laws.” Listen to The Tipon Report which he co-hosts with his son Attorney Emmanuel “Noel” Tipon. They talk about immigration law, criminal law, court-martial defense, and current events. It is considered the most witty, interesting, and useful radio show in Hawaii. KNDI 1270 AM band every Thursday at 8:00 a.m. Atty. Tipon was born in Laoag City, Philippines. Cell Phone (808) 225-2645. E-Mail: attorneytipon@gmail.com filamlaw@yahoo.com. Website: https://www.tiponimmigrationguide.com
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